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Terms “Googled” To Find My Blog

3 Jun

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I really love WordPress and all the data they offer you in terms of the visitors to your blog.  I thought I’d share just a few of the search terms people use to get to my blog.  Based on the search terms I’d say there are a lot of people out there who are quite curious about lesbian dynamics.  That’s why I decided to start writing about my own experiences/perceptions as a self-identifying lady lover.  I thought I might as well add something to the public mix because there are women out there searching for answers or advice.  You really can never have enough resources.  You can never have enough perspectives.  Maybe someone can relate to my perspective better than one of the numerous other lesbian blogs/vlogs available.

I know this doesn’t constitute a real post, but I thought it was important to inform my viewers just how many eyes come across my page.  I’m actually surprised how many views I get daily because I hardly advertise the URL.  This means that people are actively searching out for things of the lesbian persuasion.  I’ll continue to write about all aspects, theories, thoughts, observations, and personal experiences.  I might not have the most eloquent or technically sound writing, but I always try to be as real as possible; no matter how unfavorable my perspective may be.

Keep on reading.  Keep on commenting.  Ask questions.

Jam out with your clam out.


You’re The Only Single One… In Your Group… Of Straight Friends…

10 Apr

Month after month, your friends and acquaintances repeat to you “Be patient… there’s someone out there for everyone.”  But is there really?  Truly, in the depths of my hopeless romantic soul, I do believe this.  But then reality slaps me back into this atmosphere, eyes wide open, and I can’t help but to observe it’s happening for everyone but the lone lesbian.  Or at least seemingly everyone (because obviously it’s not all of my friends… yet).  It just seems so easy for them to glide in and out of relationships and hookups.  Where do I sign up?

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How do you even date in the lesbian world?!  If you’re currently in an environment where there are no quality lesbian bars to choose from (or none at all), you’re pretty much stuck in a rut.  When you go out with your straight friends, you go to straight bars/clubs.  They’re kind of the most depressing places on earth because you have to get drunk enough to: 1) dance with whatever gross guy approaches you with no rhythm.  2) ignore the fact that all your friends are making out with someone and there you are swirling your drink(s).  3) build up enough bravado to approach the women you find attractive (and most likely get graciously denied).  I think the Tumblr post above states it best:  “Dating in the gay world is like finding a job.  You either do it on the internet or get referred.”  Well I must be doing something incorrectly because I have yet to be referred or found Internet gold in the dating or job world!  Not that I’m in a hurry or anything but I wouldn’t mind having a little distraction.  Also, having people repeatedly ask me if there are any girls in my life is getting tiresome.  I know being a lesbian automatically put me in the category of “get ready to never date anyone” because only ~3-6% of the American population identify as something other than heterosexual, but I didn’t think it would be this difficult.  Again, I know my environment at the moment can account for some of the difficulties I’m facing.  Although I think I’m thankful that I’m not caught up in a lesbian scene because based on personal accounts posted on various websites, it can get messy and everyone seems to have been recycled.  I mean, you know “The Chart” (Another L Word reference…  DO YOU SEE HOW MONUMENTAL THAT SHOW WAS TO LESBIANS EVERYWHERE?!  CAN WE BRING IT BACK PLEASE? OR SOMETHING LIKE IT?!  IN AMERICA?!).


P.S. all my pictures all clickable to the original source of the photo.

So how do we handle this situation?  Luckily we find ourselves in an era where hundreds of digital dating tools are at our fingertips.  We have dating websites like OkCupid and whatever the name of that site Facebook constantly advertises on my page (Sapphos, I think?).  We also have iPhone apps like Tinder and Grindr.  I’ve briefly browsed OkCupid a few times and each time I’m either underwhelmed with the suggestions or creeped out by the approach of many of its users.  Maybe one day I’ll return and give it another shot.  As for Tinder, I’ve heard it’s kind of fun and creepy to use but they do have a “girls only” option!  Now you may be thinking to yourselves ahh tech dating… yeah right.  Believe me, I still think that way in a sense.  My mind (or heart) still believes that I’ll find a version of love during some random encounter like in the movies.  However, it’s 2013!  Why not make use of all your resources?  If none of those suggestions specifically created for dating work for you, maybe you’ll get lucky and find some random on Tumblr or in the comments section of a lesbian website.  You just never know…

Sometimes when I’m left alone with my thoughts I often wonder if I were straight, would I have a boyfriend right now?  We’ll never know… I have a handful of guy friends who I think came into my life because we are soul mates.  I think they are truly the greatest and kindest souls on the planet and yet somehow every single one of them are single.  When we talk about dating and our chronic singledom, they always tell me that I’m much more interesting and intriguing than the straight girls they’ve met (I mean I probably am, haha).  In response I always tell them that they’re much easier to deal with than the lesbian/bisexual/bicurious girls I’ve ever met.  It’s a hilarious cycle of conversation.  Maybe I’d feel better if I had a really close lesbian friend who was also single and could share my sentiments.  Until I get that friend or have Fate place a stunning lady in my path, I think I’ll make an honest effort in concentrating on improving myself and reaching my goals.

Straight Girls Fall In Love With Me Too…

16 Mar


A couple of weeks ago I posted an entry entitled “You Fell In Love With ANOTHER Straight Girl.”  Basically it describes my terrible habit of falling in love with straight girls because of reasons I would like to know.  Wouldn’t it be great if a consequence of being gay was that you could only fall in love with other lesbians?  Actually that might be terrible because some people just fall in love with the person and you could miss out on a chance with a girl that only currently identifies as straight.  But I digress…  As mentioned in the previous entry, I have fallen in love (or whatever it was) with more than my fair share of straight girls.  While I admit I am the type of person that falls quickly,  I think the feelings I developed for these girls were not completely uninfluenced.  My feelings grew stronger overtime because in one way or another, I think, these girls reacted positively to my advances.

But recently, one of those said straight girls (who is now one of my best friends) told me why I attract so many straight girls.  To put it simply, she said that she and other (straight) girls didn’t see me as someone of the same gender, but more as my own species.  In other words, those girls were never attracted to other girls, just me.  The first thing I did was smile because what an ego boost.  The second thing I did was frown because if they were attracted to me in some way, why couldn’t they admit it or just take a chance with me for my own sanity?  Obviously I understand why none of them ever took the chance because a decision like that could potentially shift their lives and it’s difficult to coast out of your comfort zone.  If I ever found myself becoming attracted to a man I would most likely be hesitant as well.  I say “most likely” because even though something is out of my comfort zone, there is always a high probability of me expressing my emotions.

With this said, was it fair for these girls to express any kind of interest beyond a platonic friendship with me?  In principle, hell no.  No one likes to be an experiment and the toll each girl has taken on me has been pretty severe.  However, I’ve learned from them what I like and dislike and what I deserve.  I also appreciate them taking the time to explore their sexualities in the most passive way possible, even if I was at the expense at some point in time.  Whenever I can help someone find their path in life I am all for doing.

I hope my grey relationships with self-identifying heterosexual women are coming to a close; and if there are heterosexual women out there who are genuinely curious about their sexuality and want to experiment here are a few tips you can follow:

  1. First and foremost make damn sure you clearly communicate what your intentions are with the lesbian subject.
  2. If you didn’t expect to become attracted to the lesbian subject and you kiss them, and then kiss them again on more than one occasion  it is not okay to brush those interactions under the rug.
  3. If the lesbian subject starts to show signs of attachment and you’re not at that level with her, let her know.
  4. Don’t get angry with lesbian subject if she gets angry with you for talking to guys because you have yet to communicate with her.
  5. Don’t be an asshole.
  6. If this is a close friend, know that you are putting your friendship on the line.
  7. Try as best as you can to match up your actions and your words…  i.e.  Don’t continuously have physical contact and spend absurd amounts of time with each other and ultimately tell her you’re just friends.  That’s mean.

While I may seem bitter over straight women, I still believe that lesbians and previously identifying straight women are capable of falling for each other just like lesbians are capable of falling for men.  In fact…

Just love who you love damn it.  Don’t be afraid to jump.  You never know what could happen.

Do Gay Men Outnumber Gay Women?

11 Mar


Back in October one of my favorite successful and out lesbians was answering questions via Twitter.  Lauren Bedford Russell participated on Showtimes The Real L Word and has since garnered much more visibility in the lesbian community.  She is currently travelling with sexy girlfriend Kiyomi Mccloskey and her band Hunter Valentine.  Aside from starring on a lesbian reality show, Lauren is also an established jewelry designer, advocate for gay rights, and educator of multiple sclerosis (as she was recently diagnosed with).

I decided to ask Lauren a question that has kind of been on my mind ever since I began discovering my own sexuality and so on.  I asked her if it seemed like there are more out gay men than women and she she replied with a “very much so.”  While I was in college I kind of noticed that there seemed to be more “out” gay men on campus than out women.  Obviously my conservative  University located in small town Ohio does not represent every environment, but my observation seems to hold true in the public eye as well.  When we hear entertainment news concerning the gay community in terms of engagements, coming out of the closet stories, or scandals, they always seem to be about men.

So I began thinking, is this a true perception?  There are a couple of factors that could paint this picture and one of them is due to the fact that men are still the more dominant images in media.  Men still dominate news and entertainment allowing them to easier receive exposure on topics other than body image or clothing choices.  But this doesn’t account for the gay men who are not celebrities.  Another factor could be that female friendships are often more intimate than male friendships, so the line between gay and straight is a bit more blurry.

Another reason why I’m curious about this perception is because to my observations, it seems as though American culture is more comfortable with two women being in relationships than men, promoting an easier transition for women to come out.  Maybe it’s possible that there are more lesbians but for some reason they don’t feel the need to come out or fear the process more.  I don’t feel as though it’s necessary to “come out” persay, but I think it’s important to embrace ones sexuality and be proud of your attractions.

I wouldn’t have questioned my perception so much, but since a significant figure often socializing in gay environments feels the same way, I thought it was a worthy topic to write about.  Obviously there’s no good way to measure the number of out gay men to women, but it would be interesting to know.  What do you guys think?

The Job Search, Sexuality, & Résumé Points

6 Mar

I am and have been knee deep in the most frustrating race I’ve encountered thus far in my 23 years of breathing: the job search.  While I know I’m stuck in a rut just like many other recent grads, my anxiety is growing with the next wave of new graduates looming on the horizon.  However, unlike many other grads and soon-to-be grads I have the fortune of having no student debt hanging over my head dictating all my future decisions.  My lack of student debt allows me to have endless freedom for my future and yet I’m still here working my restaurant job in the meantime until I find something, (almost) anything, that pays a wage I think worthy of a University graduate.  Is that selfish of me?  Possibly.  Does this put me into the category of that “self-entitled 20 something who has no right to be choosy for their first post-graduate job?”  I don’t think so because as I said previously I’m currently working in a restaurant so obviously I’m taking any position.

Résumés are funny because to all the people who are not in hiring positions, they look exemplary.  To all the people you’re sending your résumé to, you don’t fulfill the credentials they’re looking for.  What are they looking for?  I think my résumé possibly lacks “professional” experience but definitely not experience.  The thing listed on my résumé that worries me most is my inclusion on a LGBT committee while I was in school.  I choose to list it because I believe my position in that organization truly helped mould me into the person I am today.    The other day I asked a few people if listing a LGBTQ organization on my résumé was a mistake and I did not hear the answers I was hoping to.  All of them essentially said that leaving it on there could possibly hinder me from obtaining a position with a company.  If shattering hearts were an audible sound I think the entire neighborhood would’ve heard mine.

 It’s inexplicably frustrating knowing that wherever I go in my future that my sexuality could be a factor in determining whether or not I achieve something.  I shouldn’t be too upset I know, because I would certainly not want to even consider a company that has issues with sexuality and gender identity.  However, it is always in the back of my mind whether or not I get denied because of the inclusion of a LGBT organization written on paper.  If I get to the interview portion, the worry then transfers from my sexuality to my race as I am not white.  While we can all live in a fantasy land pretending that prejudice does not exist, the sad truth is that it does and is practiced silently by numerous companies and organizations.

Although it was recommended that I take my position on the LGBT education board off my résumé, I don’t think I will.  I’d rather remain jobless I suppose than have to lie about the things I’m passionate for and what I was involved with.  I can only have faith that the right eyes or company will come across my presence in the world.  Until then I’ll keep on marching along with the rest of the unemployed graduates who may not have my same fears and concerns, but comprehend how defeating the search is; especially when your inbox is filled with at least 3 emails stating “we’re sorry but we cannot consider you for a position” a day.

P.S. if anyone does have any leads to LGBT positions or companies that would appreciate the diversity and perspective, let me know!

You Fell In Love With ANOTHER Straight Girl

28 Feb


Ah… The L Word, we meet again.  The show was so perfect because it really made an effort to address essentially all issues pertaining to lesbians no matter how farfetched the plot eventually became.  Dana hits the nail on the head sharing with Tina her frustrating and repetitive habit of being attracted to straight girls.  I, Dana Fairbanks, am all too familiar with that activity.  In fact, it’s largely all I’ve ever known…  Going through this event is a rite of passage of sorts for baby dykes, but for me it’s no longer a rite of passage but expected occurrence.

If I could be psychic and warn my future self not to gain any feelings or attachments to particular girls, I would.  But alas I have no special powers and am constantly left to slowly drown in heartbreak followed by feeling like a complete and utter moron for being falsely seduced by straight girls.  Is it my fault?  I suppose some of the blame can be put on me but then again, can you really help who you fall for?

If my numbers are correct, my count of “straight girls I have fallen for/all have had some physical contact with me” is currently too high for my liking.  How does this happen?  Generally, it begins as a friendship like most relationships, but feelings ultimately evolve as the two get closer and someone does or says something that is outside what is considered the platonic realm.  I know women tend to be more nurturing and emotional creatures so it is not too strange for female friendships to be more intimate than male friendships.  But it’s a whole different softball game when one member of the friendship is attracted to the same sex.  I don’t know how I find these girls or how they find me, but ever since 8th grade I’ve managed to befriend a girl who identifies as straight but ends up locking lips with me on more than one occasion along with confessing, in one way or another, their (not-so-sounding-platonic) love for me.  When I’m attracted to someone I let them know by my actions and words, even if it’s a girl who generally dates men ( I CAN’T HELP IT).  I think it’s up to them to sit your ass down and be like “Look… I love you you big dyke.  But I’m not into you like that.”   The earlier that conversation happens the better because you can begin the healing process and possibly get back to being just good friends.  Thankfully, all of my straight mistakes learning experiences have done that for me even if it was much too late in the friendship and after multiple times of embracing each other with our lips and cuddling.

The most difficult part of getting past the “I’ve fallen for a straight girl and can’t get up” is believing them when they say they’re straight.  It doesn’t matter how many times they kiss you, how many times they cuddle with you, how many gifts they give you, how many times they tell you things remind them of you… THEY ARE STRAIGHT.  Or maybe they aren’t straight but don’t feel comfortable labeling themselves as anything else but straight (labels are for cans) because the whole situation is new and different for them.  In that case it’s not up to you to force them into something they’re not ready to address in their lives.  The second most difficult part of moving on is moving on.  How do you get past someone you felt so deeply for?  I’m the wrong person to ask because when I decide I like someone, I like them long past the expiration date.  Writing, crying, reading, playing (guitar) and talking to friends have all helped me with the healing process.  When all else fails… watch a Hannah Hart video.  This one in particular:

Hannah says it best I think.  Someone will eventually come along and think everything you do is super duper cute and they’ll reciprocate the feelings you have for them 100% and not just half the time.  I know it’s hard but you just have to be patient and know that there is nothing wrong with you because you were rejected by a straight girl.

“Holy Crap I’m Totally Gay” While Watching… (Film Edition)

25 Feb

The reason I love film (I promise I’m not some pretentious film snob who despises the word “movie”) is because they truly have the ability to change your entire perspective of life or help you along the path of self-discovery.  I will be the first to vouch for films in helping me discover myself.  This list will be comprised of some films, according to my memory, that helped solidify that I in fact was a lady lover.

The first film is But I’m A Cheerleader. I remember sneaking and watching this on premium cable every chance I got, which was all the time because for some reason it was always on.  Released in 1999, the story centers around your typical hot blonde cheerleader who seems to have it all in her conservative suburban lifestyle.  Oh but there’s a twist!  She’s not exactly so straight and narrow so her family sends her to one of those creepy conversion camps that tries to “cure” people of their homosexual thoughts and behaviors.  Hilarious hijinks ensue and frankly if I got to meet the gays she does in this camp then I wouldn’t have minded so much (but conversion camps are truly disgusting).  While I wasn’t completely aware of Rupaul’s meaning to the gay community in 1999, I sure did know that Clea Duvall made my insides feel funny.  The lesbian community loves our fellow lesbian leading lady.  In But I’m A Cheerleader she plays the lesbian who is completely disinterested and acknowledges her sexuality, which is why she was the perfect character to meet the blonde cheerleader.  Clea also had roles in some of my other favorites including Faculty, Girl, Interrupted, the most recent season of American Horror Story, and of course the Oscar winning film Argo.  She definitely plays the gay role naturally although I don’t think she has officially ever come out… Not that she needs to.  Does she have a girlfriend?


Next up is Bring It On.  This one is included on my list of movies I could watch repeatedly and never get sick of.  Released in 2000, the film has that awesome feeling of late 90s High School drama.  I was 11 when this came out and I don’t remember seeing it in theaters so I probably caught it when it was released to cable television.  My mind most likely guided me to this because of attractive ladies in cheerleading uniforms.  Kirstin Dunst, Eliza Dushku, and Gabrielle Union combined into my dream trio of gals.  But it was Eliza Dushku as Missy Pantone who stole my heart.  The transfer from Los Angeles, who joins the Rancho Cucamonga Torros as a last resort because the school has no gymnastic team (SEE WHAT I DID THERE), evolves from city punk to lovable cheerleader while adjusting to working with some grade A bitches.

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I mean just look at her.  When she strutted into that gym for tryouts with her middrift exposed, twisted hair, cargo pants, and barbwire tattoo carefully drawn on herself with a sharpie, I knew I was in love.  Confronting the cheer bitches with her sharp tongue and impressive tumbling skills, Missy eventually goes on to help the Torros through some cheerocracy challenges.  However, like most mainstream movies, my favorite female character falls for the prince charming and lives happily ever after.  I in response get angry with her for not falling for a girl… Another sign that you might be gay.  Nonetheless, Eliza Dushku I salute you for always playing those badass characters and reminding me why I like women.

The final movie I’ll discuss is for me one of the most heart-wrenching and beautiful lesbian loves stories I’ve seen thus far.  Lost and Delirious is the story of three boarding school girls, two of which face a friendship that oscillates between friends, lovers, and nothing.  I love the way this story is told by way of Mischa Barton’s character, an introverted outsider looking in on Piper Perabo’s and Jessica Paré’s relationship.  I do believe this is the first movie I sought out that had a blatantly clear plot where a character was struggling with her sexuality.  Pauli, Piper Perabo’s character falls madly in love with Tori, Jessica Paré’s character.  While their love burns hot like coals for some time, it cannot last due to Tori’s family values and reputation at the boarding school.  This hurls Pauli into a spiral of madness, which I find beautiful because her manic passion shows how insane unrequited love makes one feel.  I always recommend Lost and Delirious to people seeking out a basic movie with a lesbian love story.  After watching this I knew I was a lesbian because a man has never made me feel to this intensity, like Pauli feels with Tori.

I only mentioned three movies for the sake of length but there is quite an array of films with lesbian content in them.  I like to pride myself on the number of films I’ve watched that can be twisted into some kind of queer text because I’m pretty sure I’ve seen them all.  Here’s a list of films provided by imdb for you to view if you’re seeking such content:  List of Queer Films

All Your Friends Are Heterosexual But You’re Not…

20 Feb

Hot Damn

You know what’s so great about this photo of lovely women above?  Not only are they sexy and seemingly fun-loving people, but they’re friends… And they’re all lesbians.  Having a group of female friends who adore and loathe women in the same way you do is pretty much a distant fantasy for me at the moment.  That’s why I tend to search high and low for any type of media that depicts close knit lesbian friendships so I can get a small taste of what it might be like.

My lack of lesbian friends could possibly be blamed on the fact that I was born, raised, went to school, and still live in the midwest.  The midwest being southwestern Ohio.  Cincinnati isn’t the smallest city, but I do not reside in any of the “progressive” areas.  Part of the blame could also be that I never really put any extra effort into making some lesbian friends.  While I attended University I did participate in the campuses LGBTQ organization (Spectrum).  But I never really found anyone I clicked with in the group.  It wasn’t until senior year that I finally found a “secret” group of lesbians.  I guess they weren’t exactly secret but I had never seen any of them doing things with Spectrum.  Anyhow, I didn’t have enough time to get to really know any of them and thus I graduated with one lesbian friend.  Luckily, my heterosexual friends are some of the greatest gifts that have ever been bestowed upon me.

All of my friends that I put into the “best friend” category all self identify (to my knowledge) as heterosexual.  They have been the most supporting and uplifting bunch of people I could’ve asked for.  From the moment I came out officially six years ago, to typing right here right now, not one of them has left me because of my sexuality.  I know there are kids out there who cannot say the same and I am forever grateful.  They listen to me complain about girls and cry over all the heterosexual girls I’ve fallen for (more on that later.  I could write a saga).  Even though they can’t specifically relate, they still do their best to console me and give me great bits of advice.  While I am appreciative of this, there’s an odd lingering feeling when all your friends are talking about their boyfriends and you kind of feel like an outlier.  Well technically I am an outlier I suppose.  I am infinitely surrounded by heteronormative music, television, film, friends, and sometimes you just want a small sense of complete belonging.

So what do you do when you can’t find your community in person?  You find that community elsewhere.  The easiest way to go about this is obviously the online world.  Tumblr is pretty much rainbows puking up rainbows and it’s fantastic because for a moment you feel like everyone finally understands you.  They talk about LGBTQ issues, share images they find attractive and why, talk about lesbian sex without any awkwardness, and truly embrace their identities as women who love women.  There are also websites like AfterEllen, which I lived and breathed on when I first came out.  They eloquently share lesbian news, music, film, tv, etc, while providing a safe space for lesbians to discuss various topics.  There’s also Cherry Grrl, which is “a little website with the goal of bringing more visibility to lesbian projects.”  Autostraddle is another good one.  These are just some of the main sites I wander to when I need some real lesbian content in my life.  In addition to the online Universe, you can also go out into the real world and scope out some known lesbian hot spots in your city.  I know there’s a stereotype in the lesbian community that every girl either has slept with or knows every other lesbian in a 100 mile radius.   So far from what I’ve read of some cities, this seems true.  From what I’ve experienced/seen of the seemingly smallish lesbian community in my city, it’s not really my cup of tea.  I know I just haven’t found the right lesbian scene yet and I’m hopeful I’ll find it in the future preferably in a different zipcode.  It takes patience to be gay if you haven’t figured that out already.

So if you’re like me in this situation, don’t fret!  Remind your heterosexual friends that you’re appreciative of them while seeking out a community that will fit your needs.  Also don’t feel pressured to befriend the first lesbian you meet just because you’ve never had a lesbian friend.  You can’t force a close friendship.  Just go with the flow baby.  Although I know how that sense of urgency feels and how hard it can be to resist something you’re desperately seeking.  But try to be patient.

-The Lyrical Lesbian

Why Women Hypnotize Me

19 Feb
“I love their voice, their eyes, their hair, their curves, their bodies, their laugher.  The sadness, the wetness.  See everything about women I love.  Touching them, feeling their skin against mine, making them feel good.  See I respect them and I respect myself.”

Of course I wouldn’t be a real lesbian if I didn’t have some L Word reference in one of my posts.  I’m kidding.   That is a terrible stereotype and not every lesbian watches The L Word incessantly and knows every season like the cuffs on their plaid button ups (I however do own every season on DVD.  It was a life changing show and I’m still waiting for another show with similar sentiments).

People always ask me why I like women because apparently there is a generous portion of the male and female population who think women are psychotic.  I like to use the terms “beautifully complex” or “insufferably intoxicating” but I suppose psychotic does the job.  I think it’s that complexity I am attracted to.  I know men can be complex as well but my brain must not be able to pick up on and feel those wavelengths.  Women are the puzzles that come with an infinite number of pieces with extra pieces that don’t fit.  It is possible to be addicted to complexity and sometimes I feel as though I have that addiction.  I like the challenge and I like the mystery.

Physically…  Physically.  Consult the quote above.  Papi said it best.

A woman’s voice:  When she’s satisfied.  When she’s tired.  When she’s hurt and on the verge of tears.  When she’s happy.  I can hear and sense every minute change in a woman’s voice and they all change the texture of my skin.  Women with lower pitched voices are especially attractive to me.

Their hair:  Long.  Short.  Straight.  Curly.  One shade.  Ombre.  Three shades.  It’s this variety I love.  The way it flows when she walks away from me.  The way I can play with it for hours voluntarily.  A woman’s hair is one of my favorite ways she expresses her current mood.

Their curves/bodies:  I mean come on… What person with a beating heart has never found themselves lusting over a pair of really great breasts?  Personally I am an ass girl.  To me a woman’s body is like a pendulum.  I cannot stop staring especially when they’re walking or dancing.  It’s such a fluid motion.  Curved lower backs leading to Dimples of Venus.  Everything is soft and quiet making any subtle change in textures noticeable.

Is there anything more attractive than a confident and strong woman?  Women who take charge of themselves and walk down the sidewalk like they laid the cement are my kryptonite.  Women who kick ass in the gym so much so that men stop with jaws dropped to appreciate their strength.  Did you see the film “Zero Dark Thirty?”  Jessica Chastain’s role turned me on so much because she did not take shit from anyone and stood her ground despite all the doubt that surrounded her.  Confidence is sexy readers.

I could go on and on.  If I ever find myself attracted you I’ll probably write you a poem about it.  Now you know a little bit of where my attraction stems from.  So if any of you heterosexuals out there wander onto my page, don’t ask your lesbian friend how is it possible they can be attracted to women.  Our brains can’t help it.


Go kiss a girl if you’ve never experienced the wonders.

Why The Lyrical Lesbian?

8 Feb

Let me just start off in the most cliché way I know how:  A DEFINITION!

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Lyrical:  Expressing the writer’s emotions in an imaginative and beautiful way.

If you know me or get to know me you will discover that my emotions control a lot of what I do.  I’m the kind of person who needs to let someone know how I feel about them or else it consumes my thoughts and plays on repeat inside my head causing deep exhaustion.  This goes for platonic friends, unrequited lovers, random people I pass in public, people who make me feel something, etc.  It even goes for music, which is a whole other blog entry.  Basically, if I feel something about anything there will be a sentence scribbled, song played, poem typed, or entry written about it somewhere.  While my writing is far from being technically sound I hope it makes up in the ability to touch someone… In the comforting way like when the weather is perfect and still in the spring.  My brain operates similarly to a blender except when ingredients begin overflowing down the sides no one is there to turn it off, and things just keep getting added.  It’s all very confusing.

As for the second title of my name:  Lesbian.  At the moment in the month of February 2013 I self-identify as a lady lover.  I’ll tell the whole story in a later entry.  Later entry as in the next one because it’s something that means a lot to me.  I know sexuality is just a portion of who I am but it’s a significant one and I love to talk about it!  So talk about it I will.

Thank You for reading your introduction 101 to The Lyrical Lesbian.